4 ways to be the best parent you can be

Can I be a better parent?  Every now and then I have a search through my blog stats to see where people are coming from and what words they are using to find my blog. Every single day the phrase “how to be a better parent” comes up. Now, the very fact that these people are searching this tells me they are probably already doing a good job and more than likely a great job. It is a fairly general phrase, so I started thinking, “what information are these parents really after?”  What do we all need to know to be a better parent? Or the very best parent we can be?

Not definitive, not new or groundbreaking and not perfect…..but here are 4 ways I came up with that will go a long way to ensuring you are being the best parent you can be.

Work with your strengths and get support for your weaknesses

We are never going to be great at every aspect of parenting. Some are great at sitting down and doing crafts (not me) and some are great at playing imaginary games (not me). Some are great cooks and have extravagant afternoon tea snacks laid out (not me). In fact now I am not so sure what my strengths are! Well I do love watching them play sport (cricket, not so much). I am getting better at sharing my time with them all. I am OK at helping them with homework, although my husband says I get a bit too excited with some assignments, especially the history ones. But along the way there is no shame in getting help, seeking support or outsourcing others to get you through. We are all so different in our personalities, skills and values that we can never be expected to parent like everybody else. So don’t compare to others, just accept your differences instead. [Read more...]

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Lessons for parents and kids from some inspiring athletes

Reading , watching or hearing about people who overcome adversity always makes us feel good. We love to know that hard work pays off, that obstacles and challenges can be met and conquered, that a dark cloud has a silver lining and that when all seems lost, dreams and hopes become a reality.

This past week I was fortunate enough to be able to interview some Australian athletes who will soon be competing in the upcoming Olympics and Paralympics. I wanted to know a little more about their childhood and those that inspired them to overcome life’s challenges and excel in their chosen sports.

Christian Williams is working to qualify for the 2012 Olympics in the Archery team. Despite having a serious heart condition, Christian has learnt to make changes to his goals and aspirations in order to find a sport that allows him to safely compete. In doing so he has showed enormous dedication as well as a drive and persistence that he is keen to demonstrate to other young people hoping to follow their dreams. [Read more...]

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Parenting with illness: the importance of help and support

Being sick really isn’t any fun at all. And being sick when you have other little (or big) people you are responsible for is even worse. Well that was my week last week. It was only really a good 24 hours that I was physically sick with a violent and ugly case of gastro….but it was enough to pretty much write off the whole week. (It didn’t help that 5 out of our 7 family members got it too…so on the plus side, every item of linen and bedding is fresh and clean and the floors have been washed numerous times!)

When lying in my bed, so thankful for my mother who slotted right into proceedings, and a cousin who had made all the kids lunches, it was kind of bizarre sitting back and listening to the goings on of your family, but having no input at all. It was a bit like wanting to help, give advice, join in and be a part of it, but really not caring enough to be the slightest bit interested. [Read more...]

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Advice to live by: for new parents and old

As I approach that time again (yes giving birth), it has led me to reflect on some of the advice that is usually offered as people become parents for the first time. It has been 11 years since I first embarked on parenthood and the advice has been many and varied. Now that I am about to have my 5th little boy, not surprisingly,  people are not inundating me with their baby advice and words of wisdom. And yes I concur that I feel confident in knowing what to do with a baby, how to feed, settle, soothe, how to deal with nappy rash, cradle cap, bathing and introducing solids. What I think we all need reminding of however,  be they your 1st or 6th  baby, is to seek out advice when you need it and take the support when it is offered, but most of all trust in yourself and your instincts to help you make confident decisions about what is best for you, your baby and your family. Below I have posted some of my favourite quotes that I have found whilst browsing the internet (yes getting hooked on Pinterest)…and these quotes I will continue to try and live by to ensure that I maintain balance, perspective and a good deal of happiness over the weeks, months and years to follow. [Read more...]

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Technology and Parenting – A help or a hindrance?

Have the changes in technology made the job of parenting easier or harder?

Do changes to the modern world mean changes to the way we parent? There is no doubt parenting has always been the most challenging of all our endeavours and will more than likely continue along that path. Have recent changes in technology however, and in particular the development of the internet and the world of social networking, made these endeavours easier or harder to parent?

As I watch my ‘not yet 2 year old’ effortlessly flick through the screens of the ipad to find his favourite Thomas the Tank app, I am left swallowing the pangs of guilt as I heave myself away from my iphone to read a story with him. In the background the television is blaring out a report of a young girl being assaulted by another young teenage girl after repeatedly being bullied via Facebook.

The technology our children and ourselves are becoming immersed in is not a passing fad. The platforms may change and it will continue to develop, but the essential workings of the internet and social networking are here to stay. [Read more...]

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