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How we survived being switched off technology as we disconnected to reconnect

May 14, 2013 By 17 Comments

We survived! Yes, 48 hours without technology. All switched off and disconnected in order to reconnect.

In actual fact I didn’t find it too hard as my weekend was crazy busy. Had I been sitting at home and not going to 3 different football matches, a lunch, a dinner, the shops and an afternoon of family in my home for Mothers Day I may have coped a little less easily.

Here is some of what disconnecting meant for us as a family:

  • I had to use a Melways to look up an address! There was no googling and going straight to google maps
  • I could not tweet to the world how fantastic my football team played on Friday night
  • Mr 9 got out the lego which he hadn’t done for a long time
  • I had to check the weather in the newspaper
  • Mr 11 had a slight meltdown on Saturday night. He couldn’t understand why we have technology if we arn’t allowed to use it. He thought it was a ridiculous idea in the first place, not something he had actually even agreed to (there was no choice my friend) and only stopped the whinging when I threatened to film him and put it on my blog for evidence as to why we should all disconnect at times. He soon got over it and went and jumped on the trampoline
  • My husband may have struggled not being able to check his dream team scores and checking race results
  • I read the whole of the weekend paper from front to back
  • I did have to check my Heartfelt page to organise an urgent photography session and could see that I had messages on Facebook  and had been tagged in photos. It was really quite hard to ignore them (I did though) and there was a slight sense of missing out on something
  • It was nice not to have to keep tabs on time limits and who was on what device or game and for how long etc
  • It was especially great not to listen to the “Spongebob Squarepants’ theme song
  • All the kids were happy to go and watch each others sport rather than stay home
When the time came to reconnect, surprisingly we all didnt race back to it as fast I thought we would! I actually had to really motivate myself just to turn it all back on, read the emails, answer them, check the Facebook page, finish editing photos etc. Whilst writing this now, the 9 year old has been home over an hour and hasnt picked up any technology but instead asked if he can make some choc chip cookies! Maybe he hasn’t realised he is allowed back on!
I understand that for kids who have only lived in a world of technology , switching off altogether can be seen as difficult…..but maybe something that we can incorporate in our lives more regularly…and still survive.

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What do you or would you miss the most without technology?

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4 reasons why we need to switch off the technology and disconnect to reconnect

May 6, 2013 By 11 Comments

I do love technology and the changes it has made to my life. I can do lots of work from home and still be around for my kids. I can keep in contact with friends and family with very minimal effort. My kids benefit form the changes to learning and education. I have made great connections online that have resulted in great real life friendships. But. Sometimes I don’t like it so much. Sometimes it annoys me that it is another thing to nag about. It annoys me that it makes my kids grow up and see things before I want them to. It frustrates me that people can say things online they wouldn’t in real life. It makes me sad when I see people on it ALL the time.

So that is why I am going to Disconnect to Reconnect this Mothers Day weekend.

I need to make sure that myself and my kids get the balance right….or at least get a better balance.

Here are 4 reasons why I think we should all have a time to switch off and disconnect…….

Help with Time Limits

I have said it before and I will continue to nag it as my number one boundary to have regarding technology. Time limits are so important to help us all avoid so many different pitfalls. If we have time away and switch off all together, we are able to remind ourselves that we can get by without it. We can find other things to do and enjoy them too. We can connect with people on a different level. We can really be present.

Get in the trackies

Now I don’t wear trackies very often, and actually not in public unless I am participating in exercise. However I use the analogy of that feeling of getting home, taking off the heels, or the tight jeans and getting into something comfy and relaxing on the couch. That feeling of not caring who will see you means you can let it all hang out a bit. That’s how I think we need to feel with our online habits. When it comes to young people particularly, we know they feel ‘switched on’ socially all the time. They have to be present, ready for a selfie, ready to withstand the comments and feedback and friend requests and likes. Sometimes we all need a time to just ‘not care’ who is watching.

Find a new interest: its good to be bored

Last time I made my kids do this, my kids learnt how to play chess. They now have a great skill that they otherwise probably wouldn’t have had. If we are forced to look outside the square we may just find there are other pursuits waiting for us to explore. I could even pick up that guitar again…..

Remember the real life connections

Now I know the situation isn’t in such dire straits that our social skills are packing up and leaving us altogether!  It is important however, that we make ourselves truly present for each other. We need to sometimes remind ourselves to really listen. Not just mumbling an answer whilst you are in the middle of typing a blog post or answering an email. We need to take the time to listen and not just hear, and to look at each other without having one eye on a screen.

So wish me luck as we prepare to disconnect this weekend all in the name of charity and some fabulous personal benefits for the family as well.

If you haven’t done so already check out the Disconnect to Reconnect page on Facebook or go and sponsor me to raise money for disadvantaged kids to get the one on one attention they need.

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30 Things to do without technology: Disconnecting our families to reconnect

April 29, 2013 By 13 Comments

Hearing the words whine “I’m bored…there’s nothing to do” is not really a new phenomena for kids either from my day or with todays ‘fix it now/immediate relief/rarely have to wait for anything’ generation. Now when I was young we certainly had less distractions at hand and so we had no choice but to go and make our own fun (Man I am sounding ridiculously older than I believe I am). These days it is no surprise our kids struggle more and we can’t really blame them when they can easily be entertained at the swipe of a finger or turn of joystick. Now I am in fact pre-empting these very cries of boredom when my kids indulge me in my Mothers Day gift of particpating in the DISconnect to REconnect challenge.

I imagine they may not outwardly relish the opportunity to switch off all forms of technology for a whole weekend. But I shall be ready. I will have this list close at hand to ensure there is no room or time for boredom protestations. We may do some of them, certainly not others…but here they are, my 30 things to do that do not require technology:  [Read more...]

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Switching off the technology by default: my practice run to Disconnect to Reconnect

April 23, 2013 By 7 Comments

Easter this year saw us revisit our camping ground at Halls Gap for another fabulous long weekend of family, friends, fun, chocolate, wine, food and more food. I say camping ground but for those that know me you are probably aware camping is not a common practise of mine. We were in fact staying in fairly comfortable 2 bedroom cabins but that is not really the point.  That aside, my trip to The Grampians also by default ensured I had a good practice run for my weekend of disconnecting to reconnect. It soon became apparent my phone had very little service for phone calls and texting and zero access to the online world. Usually a catastrophe of epic proportion! Instead I took a deep breath and decided to enjoy the novelty. As an added bonus there was no xbox, Wii or  Minecraft so the kids had to find other entertainment as well. Not that they found this difficult as there were so many kids and so much space to play they never really had time to get bored.

The kids played footy, had easter egg hunts, went in search of kangaroos and had running race after running race after running race . [Read more...]

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A very important Mothers Day present: Disconnecting to Reconnect

April 19, 2013 By 13 Comments

I remember spending my first Mothers Day in the Royal Childrens Hospital with my new baby and I was given a little card with his handprints and a poem. It was definitely the best Mothers Day gift ever, as I also found out that day that we would soon be going home and that he was going to be OK. As the Mothers Day’s have added up over time I have been blessed with all manner of home made cards, little photo frames that magnet to the fridge, hand creams, face washers, chocolates, candles and book marks. I’ve loved all these presents, but even more so the excitement in the giving and the exuberant explanations as to why you need to have that replica croc shoe that doubles as a phone cover.

 

This year, whilst still grateful to accept all Mothers Day stall paraphernalia, I am asking for something a little different from my boys.

 

This year I am asking for the gift of ‘connectedness’.

That’s right. For one whole Mothers Day weekend our whole family is switching off the technology. No ipod music, no Kik, no Instagram, no Wii, no  Xbox, no Minecraft, no Facebook, no Twitter,no Skype. And yes this will be a challenge for the adults in the house just as much as the kids. [Read more...]

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