How we survived being switched off technology as we disconnected to reconnect

We survived! Yes, 48 hours without technology. All switched off and disconnected in order to reconnect.

In actual fact I didn’t find it too hard as my weekend was crazy busy. Had I been sitting at home and not going to 3 different football matches, a lunch, a dinner, the shops and an afternoon of family in my home for Mothers Day I may have coped a little less easily.

Here is some of what disconnecting meant for us as a family:

  • I had to use a Melways to look up an address! There was no googling and going straight to google maps
  • I could not tweet to the world how fantastic my football team played on Friday night
  • Mr 9 got out the lego which he hadn’t done for a long time
  • I had to check the weather in the newspaper
  • Mr 11 had a slight meltdown on Saturday night. He couldn’t understand why we have technology if we arn’t allowed to use it. He thought it was a ridiculous idea in the first place, not something he had actually even agreed to (there was no choice my friend) and only stopped the whinging when I threatened to film him and put it on my blog for evidence as to why we should all disconnect at times. He soon got over it and went and jumped on the trampoline
  • My husband may have struggled not being able to check his dream team scores and checking race results
  • I read the whole of the weekend paper from front to back
  • I did have to check my Heartfelt page to organise an urgent photography session and could see that I had messages on Facebook  and had been tagged in photos. It was really quite hard to ignore them (I did though) and there was a slight sense of missing out on something
  • It was nice not to have to keep tabs on time limits and who was on what device or game and for how long etc
  • It was especially great not to listen to the “Spongebob Squarepants’ theme song
  • All the kids were happy to go and watch each others sport rather than stay home
When the time came to reconnect, surprisingly we all didnt race back to it as fast I thought we would! I actually had to really motivate myself just to turn it all back on, read the emails, answer them, check the Facebook page, finish editing photos etc. Whilst writing this now, the 9 year old has been home over an hour and hasnt picked up any technology but instead asked if he can make some choc chip cookies! Maybe he hasn’t realised he is allowed back on!
I understand that for kids who have only lived in a world of technology , switching off altogether can be seen as difficult…..but maybe something that we can incorporate in our lives more regularly…and still survive.

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What do you or would you miss the most without technology?

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4 things I do everyday to keep my kids safe online

Despite being a cyber safety consultant and counsellor of many families that have struggled with online safety issues, my most important job is as a mother to 5 boys. There is no greater motivation for me to research the best ways to ensure responsible online use than the social, emotional and physical safety of my own children.

As a result there are many different ways I advocate for this to happen. There are many strategies, settings and skills that parents and kids need to understand. A few weeks ago I told you about the 4 things parents shouldn’t do with their kids online. Today, I am am reversing this to share with you the 4 things that I am doing everyday to help keep my kids safe online.

 

1. Remain a step ahead

From the toddler to the teen we always need to be a step ahead. Many parents believe this is nigh on impossible as our kids know so much. This is true. But we are the wise ones (or supposed to be) so use those understandings of human nature, cause and effect and consequence to keep ahead of our kids, even if they are a step ahead in the technology. Don’t fall into the trap of feeling left behind and thus refuse to attempt to understand. I may not know every app my kids are on but I am aware of what is out there, the skills they need to handle certain online interactions and I am constantly reminding them of the traps that others fall into. [Read more...]

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The downside to being socially switched on…all the time

The cyber world and the advancements in technology have resulted in many changes to the way we connect with others. Whilst many of the changes have meant greater ease and access to our connections, we know too, that our kids are susceptible to some of the downfalls. One of which, I believe, is the need to be ‘switched on’ socially……all the time.

With a vast majority of our kids’ socialising occurring online via social networks, it would seem that this constant contact allows for very little downtime. Very little time to ‘not care’ what they are doing or saying, who they are hanging out with, or what they are listening to or watching. [Read more...]

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Rights and Responsibilities Online: Safer Internet Day 2013

Its been a few years now since the internet waltzed into our lounge rooms and more recently into our pockets.  Nearly 20 years in fact (wow, that makes me feel old). I think it is fair to say it’s influence on our daily lives has evolved at lightning speed. It is this online world where we seek information, we seek entertainment and we seek connection. It is no longer however, just about researching, shopping, banking, booking flights and diagnosing our own ailments. Now we are meeting, reconnecting, dating, and in constant contact with friends as Social Networking Sites begin to take on face to face interaction.

Despite the challenges and potential dangers of life online, it really is a great time to live. The internet provides us with so many opportunities for work, for support, for connecting and for learning. But just as the offline world  bequeaths us certain rights and responsibilities, so too must the online world. If much of our living and the living of our kids is to be done online, it is imperative that we as parents help to ensure our kids have both of these under control.

The United Nations outlines some basic human rights that should be afforded every child. Whilst we know this is way too often not the case, theoretically, every child has the right to knowledge, to protection, to participation, to justice, to education and to health.  These rights must extend to life online. [Read more...]

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Parenting with Technology: Top posts of 2012

This post is dedicated to the most popular cybersafety and parenting with technology posts of 2012.

This is an area of parenting that is increasingly challenging parents as we are constantly faced with the all encompassing nature of the online world. As our children grow and develop amongst this new world, we as parents are making constant changes and adaptations to parent accordingly. We need to keep up with the changes, we need to make an attempt to understand their challenges, and we need to help each other be aware of the pitfalls they may encounter

 

So in case you missed them, here are some of the more popular ‘parenting with technology’ posts of 2012.

Thanks for reading and I hope to have many more posts for you as the technology changes, new challenges arise and we learn to support ,educate and guide ourselves and our kids through this dynamic new world.

Oh and please let me know if there is something specific you would like to see covered!

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