Last night I asked someone I had never met “Are you ok?” What followed was a 30 minute conversation on grief and loss. This wasn’t my intention, but it was obvious she needed to talk. I didn’t have to say much. She did a lot of the talking. But I let her talk. She needed to talk.
Today is R U Ok day and hopefully everywhere around the world people are connecting with others. Both those that they know and those they don’t .
Helping someone deal with grief, depression, sadness or loss is often seen as challenging, awkward and confronting. Mostly people are worried about saying the wrong thing.
Mostly they wont.
Sometimes it is just being next to them.
Sometimes it is walking past them on a busy school morning, putting a chocolate in their hand, squeezing their shoulder and moving on.
Sometimes it is staying up all night drinking cups of tea.
Sometimes it is long walks talking about nothing much.
Sometimes it is simply asking “R u ok?”
Always it is letting them know you care.