I recently found myself giving in and watching the movie “The Help” as despite having a copy of the book by my bedside table I just couldn’t quite get to it (I am struggling as it is to read my one book group book per month). I am so glad I watched it though. It was a wonderful portrayal of the complexities of the Civil Rights movement in Mississippi as seen by three young women who set out to transcend the lines that define them. But for me there was some very poignant moments and much to take on board with regards to raising our own children. The words by Aibileen to the toddler Mae, who she was essentially raising, have stuck with me well beyond the closing credits and have the ability to also transcend all lines and times. These words she would have her young charges repeat on a daily basis.
“You is kind. You is smart. You is important”
I started thinking what it would mean if every child today had someone to say those words to them on a daily basis. I love the idea that these 3 traits are pretty much all we need to know, or more importantly all we need to truly believe in order to achieve all that we can achieve, and do it with humility, compassion and respect for others. And whilst it is somewhat easier to tell our cute little baby how beautiful they are as we blow raspberries on their tummy, or snuggle up with a 2 year old and hand out praises as they correctly point to the right animal in the storybook, as our kids get older we may not always have the opportunities to remind them just how smart, kind and important they are. If you hear something often enough there is hope you will start to believe it. And if you start to believe it there is a good chance you will start living it. As I read through some of the comments on Facebook by teenagers and hear some of their daily bemoans of their lives, looks, brains and bodies, I started thinking that we could all do with an Aibileen sitting us down eye to eye and have us repeat those words over and again.
The other aspect of the movie that I loved was the power of the written word. Obviously I love to write and whilst I may not be moving mountains akin to those women of the deep south, I do hope that I can somehow help parents (and myself) to sit back and take stock, and remember to ensure our children know just how kind, smart and important they are.
If you haven’t seen the movie, it is now being released on DVD and Blu-ray. And if you have, then you would probably love to see it again and see all the ‘extra’ scenes and stuff that you get on the DVD/Blu ray packs.
I have a copy of “The Help” on blu-ray to give away, so to be in the running just leave a comment below on what you see as some of the most important beliefs that need to be instilled in our kids. What words do you say to them often or will you try to say more of in the future. Oh and be sure to like the Facebook page which is the only other condition of entry! Open to Australian residents only and entries close 5pm AEDST 3/3/2012
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