Last week we looked at ways to improve the communication between ourselves and our kids. We looked at some different strategies to hopefully avoid the one word answers that more often than not accompanied our daily inquisitions. This week I decided to look at ways we can enhance that connection with some great dinner table conversation starters. Of course you can use these questions at any time, and may even get your kids to write down the answers and compare them a year later. But I think eating dinner as a family is such an important aspect of connecting with our kids, and whilst circumstance and commitments don’t always make it possible every night, it is something which should be aimed for whenever possible. And of course not everyone needs help with conversation, (many attesting to this from the previous posts’ comments), however below are some questions that may impart some interesting revelations, help build self esteem, ignite gratitude, lead to resolutions or compromises or just create a few laughs and happy memories.
1. Who is someone you look up to and why?
2. What do you worry about?
3. What is your most embarrassing moment?
4. What is challenging about living in your family?
5. Talk about a time you felt really proud?
6. How are you a good friend?
7. What do you find hard about being a kid today?
8. Talk about a time you felt really angry?
9. What would you like to change about the world?
10. Talk about a time you felt really sad?
11. Talk about a moment when you were completely happy?
12. What have been the highlights of your life so far?
13. What are 3 things you do well?
14, Whats the craziest thing you’ve ever done?
15. What things scare you?
16. Do you have a best friend? What makes them special?
17. How could you be a better friend?
18. What are your goals for the future?
19. How would your friends describe you? How would your family members describe you?
20. What is one of your favourite holidays?
Do you think you may find out any interesting facts, revelations or insights into your kids lives by throwing in a few of these questions?
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These are some fantastic questions! I think I’ll start working with my son on the questions here.
Thanks for sharing!
Absolutely brilliant post! Having dinner together is so incredibly important to our family. Not only at home but also out, because the conversation you have when you’re out is always so different to what you have around the table at home.
Thanks Clare , and that is so true about the different conversations you have when you are out. 🙂