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Connecting with kids to face the challenges of the modern world

Connecting with our kids, even when we think they don’t want us too, is one of the greatest ways we as parents can help our families face the challenges of the modern world.
Parents can put in place all the boundaries, all the time limits, have the best education and have all the knowledge in the world about what their kids are facing, but unless they have a strong connection with them, it can all amount to not much.

It is pretty easy to foster that connection when our kids are young. We are more present physically in their lives and they rely on us for everyday tasks. As our children get older however, sometimes those connections are a little harder to maintain. They don’t need us to “do things’ for them as much. They dont need us to dress them, feed them, carry them, push them on a swing. They go out in to the world and make friends, have interests independant of us and we see a shift away from the immediate family as they strive for that sense of self. Sometimes parents see this ‘desire’ for independence as a time when the connection is no longer as strong. That we should sit it out and wait until they ‘come back to the fold’, shedding their teenage angst. But time and again the research and our experience tells us that this is one of the most important times to keep these connections strong. They might not show it, they certainly wont ask for it, but our kids need to know we are there as they face the social and emotional changes that come as they wade through adolescence.

Sometimes we hear that parents today don’t get enough time really connecting with their kids. That they are so busy with work commitments or always looking down at a device and that their kids are missing out. I’d agree that with some families that does seem to be the case. So I want us all to have a little think about some of the ways we are connecting with our kids and be a little conscious of just having times where they can just ‘be’ with us. It can be an activity together, a movie night, a milkshake or a visit to the park for some kick to kick. Or it can be 5 minutes at the end of the day just listening or talking or reading. It may even be connecting with technology, with games, with social media or texting each other.

I want to help promote these connections with our kids with a little Instagram challenge. As I not only have a love of family, but also a love of photography, I thought it might be fun to share our moments of connecting with our kids of all ages by using the hashtag #TMPconnects (translates to The modern parent connects) to remind ourselves how special these moments can be. I would love to see how you connect with your kids too, so if you use the hashtag we can all follow along. Of course if you don’t like showing your kids faces then that can be a great challenge for your creativity. And if you don’t like taking and sharing photos thats cool too. Hopefully you can help us think of some ways to help others keep those connections and lines of communication open with our kids.

So get snapping and share your moments of connecting with #TMPconnects

My first pic…. some time at the park after kinder

#TMPconnects
#TMPconnects

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This Post Has 22 Comments

  1. Nice post. Not on instagram but might do it on twitter….

    1. Thanks Lydia, happy for you to do it on any social network ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. I think we often forget to connect with our kids. This is the conversation I had with hubby last week, tucked up late at night I said to him “I need to work on my connection with AJ” Yes my son is only 8 but I feel like I need to re=evaluate how things work between me and him and put in a little more effort to get the dynamics working again. I know we need to be parents first and friends second with our children, but it is a delicate balance that starts with connection xx

    1. Great point Josefa. I think you are right that having a solid connection with our kids doesn’t mean we forego the ‘parenting’ part. I think everyone could benefit from having a look at their relationships throughout the different stages.

    1. Thanks Malinda, Id love to see some of your moments ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. I love this idea Martine. I’ve noticed I need to dig in a bit deeper with my older girls atm, so this will be a good reminder for me.

    1. It is definitely something that we all need to look at as our kids get older. Thanks Jess

  4. It’s a challenge to connect with truculent teenager at the moment. Got to be done in little moments… always worth it though.

    1. Yes sometimes the little moments are all thats needed Seana x

  5. I’m all for it, even though my kids are 18 & 20 – will see what I can do! Miss 18 has now left home, we have been texting heaps ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Love to see what you come up with Janet ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. This is a great idea, Martine. I am always reassessing my connection with my girls. It can be a moving feast. I love the idea of the hashtag and will definitely join in. I will have to get creative with my images as we tend to not do full facial pics of the girls ๐Ÿ™‚ #teamIBOT

    1. Look forward to some of your ‘creations’ Renee.

  7. Great idea Martine, I love a good IG challenge. It’s really starting to hit home for me, how quickly childhood flys! x

    1. It certainly does fly! Look forward to seeing your moments Lisa.

  8. Having 5 does make it more difficult to connect with each, esp the older ones, like you said, they just do things for themselves now and don’t rely on me so much. I try to sit with them at their bedtimes and they can have Mummy all to themselves for a little bit to tell me anything they have on their minds. #teamIBOT

    1. Thats always a great time to connect Sophie, as yes it does get harder with the older ones.

  9. I love this idea. All 4 of my kids are in instagram and I so are many of their friends. We all share and they often comment on my posts. I laugh though when it is 9pm (phones are not allowed in rooms) and I head to Instagram to check out pics, and I see one of my children like a picture 5 mins ago.. hmmmm. I tell my kids I know everything and they still don’t know how I do it.

    1. Such a clever mum you! x

  10. It is a good point. It is a great way to open up an honest conversation with your child. Children can then direct their emotions to finding solutions to their own problems.

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