After some years of kids hopping in the car or walking in the door after school, I have become more adept at working out how to get information out of them. Asking our children “How was your day?” invariable gets a “good”, “OK”, “fine” or even just a grunt. There are 2 pieces of advice I have if you want to get a little more conversation out of your kids and discover a few more details of what their day actually entailed.
1) Don’t expect an outpouring of information straight away. This is particularly the case for older kids. After a long day at school I now know it is best to let them have some space, grab something to eat, chill out in their room or in front of the TV or do whatever they need to do to unwind before firing any probing questions. If you go all guns blazing as soon as they walk in, you are usually poorly rewarded.
2) Don’t ask questions that can only give you a “Good”, “OK”, “fine” or grunt. Well actually, they can really grunt at anything if they want, but asking questions that are more open ended and little bit different, usually results in extra detail and ultimately a better understanding of their day, their challenges and their triumphs.
Here area few examples of questions to help you get more than that one word response…..