Parenting advice is everywhere, some of it helpful and some of it not so much.
The best advice is often that which aims to improve the mental health of the parent, either in the short or long term! If this is somewhat well in tact then the functioning of a family is generally on a fairly even keel. (I say ‘somewhat’, ‘generally’, and ‘fairly’ with emphasis, so don’t hold me to this)
With that in mind, one of the greatest pieces of advice I think I will give to any new parent is to be flexible! There are so many skills, strategies and support systems that you need to effectively run a household and rear a family, but no amount of strategizing will help you cope with the flap and tizz that ensues from a down to the second plan gone astray. All the expert knowledge in the world will count for nothing if one doesn’t have an adaptability and agility to change direction at the last minute. A simple bowel movement, a fall in the mud or a bump on the head can ensure the most thought out plan goes belly up and threatens to derail the most organized of operators.
This past week I have had one child’s surgery postponed which in itself has sent off an annoying and disruptive chain of events that I am still getting my head around. I have twice had kids throw up during the night upsetting my plans for both a full nights sleep and of the following days activities. A school kid at home that couldn’t venture far from a toilet bowl is enough to frighten anyone into an unplanned home day. I was also called at a function to pick up another child whose lunchtime antics resulted in a knee injury that threatened to see him pull out of a football match that he desperately wanted to play. I have been in the car ready to head out to said football match (he made a miraculous recovery) when the babies nappy required urgent attention and the shoes that should have been on his feet were found to be left at Grandmas after many frustrating minutes of searching. I sit here now at the end of the weekend wondering just what delights the coming week will impart.
When all else threatens to bring everything unstuck, I will remind myself to take a deep breath, count to three and say to myself….”If this all doesn’t go to plan, what’s the worst that will happen?”……and more often than not, it wont be the end of the world